“Sometimes you can’t see the road ahead but as you keep going, it gets clearer. Stay the course as the fog of life dissipates.” ― Sanjo Jendayi
For many coaches, January is a busy time. It’s when all of us in a variety of ways, take time to reflect on our year that’s passed and look forward to a new beginning.
New year is a great time, traditionally, to sign up for some Life coaching, Business coaching or Transformational Coaching; in fact, coaching of any kind. Speaking an empathic, skilled listener and questioner (which is what coaches are) about what you want and why you want it is the first, intentional step you can take to bring clarity, understanding and focus to those thoughts whirring round inside your head.
Even if you don’t know what you want, but you know that you want life to change, a coach can help you unravel your thinking – with compassion, without judgement – and in ways which leave you feeling confident and empowered about moving forwards, whatever direction or steps you choose to take.
Coaching sessions are the private places and spaces where you start hearing yourself think, where sometimes the miraculous happens as you find new motivation.
Coaching sessions are sacred spaces for you to make sense of that inner-noise, the numbness or the crazy, over-thinking we can all find ourselves dropping into when we’re left alone and to our own devices for way, too long.
So Much for 2020 Vision
This time last year, Alex de Laszlo from Breathe Out Now and I were running our Slow Down, Breathe Out and Create Your 2020 Vision Workshops. Small groups of us met face-to-face in Bath, UK, working creatively with visualisation and metaphor as we explored thoughts, feelings and mindsets to support the release of unhelpful beliefs which can persist in holding all of us back from our full potential in life.
Little did we know what else 2020 would bring.
So, this new year is very different for almost everyone. Most of our face-to-face interactions are now only possible via electronic screens.
The wings of your goals and desires may feel temporarily clipped.
Perhaps you’re feeling restricted in your personal power?
Or maybe your perception of the freedom and authority you have over your life has transformed into frustration about how you’ll move forwards in 2021.
Arguably, it’s the Restriction Which Co-creates the Freedom
When we are faced with restriction – and especially when we feel we haven’t personally chosen it – we can sometimes automatically render ourselves disabled, as we compare our life today with what used to be possible yesterday.
Yet, I invite you to stop. Look around you. Imagine there was no ‘yesterday’.
What’s here now for you, today?
What might you be missing in the present while you’re focused on the pain of what’s been lost from the past?
What if you had just landed here today and this was the only life you knew? The one you’re living right here, right now in all its imaginary restriction? (Or expansion?)
What if you turned some of this around?
What used to feel restricting to you (in your ‘pre-Covid life’) but now feels like a new freedom, for example? Take a look, you’ll definitely find something. Maybe even lots of things!
What new experiences could you choose given the changed circumstances, environment, choices and possibilities available to you, which may not have been possible at the start of last year?
How might you start to see, perceive and feel differently about today’s reality?
And if you can’t see new possibilities yet, just be willing to open yourself up to new ways of seeing.
You may be surprised about what drops in for you…
“I believe that if one always looked at the skies, one would end up with wings.” ― Gustave Flaubert
I genuinely believe – along with countless others – that we create our own realities using our imaginations, our self-talk and the feelings we feel – moment-to-moment each and every day. We see transformations time and time again when we gain new insights or have another ‘ah ha’ moment.
An old belief drops away, making way for something new to take its place, first in our psyches and then often concretely showing up in our everyday lives.
When we use our imaginations to choose deliberate, empowering thoughts and feelings on the inside we really can bring about positive changes on the outside. Yes, it can take time (or happen quickly) effort or the shifting of our energy, engaging with hope, faith, untangling our fears and making sense of the past first, but it’s definitely always worth it.
And anyway, what’s the alternative? Staying stuck in old ways?
Dare to Dream
Dare to dream today about what you really want. Dare to allow the desire to come into your awareness while releasing the ‘how’ to God, the universe or whatever else you believe might be guiding your life.
You don’t have to know how something will or could happen. You just need to stay connected to your desire and trust the process and journey you are on.
Notice what happens in the coming hours, days and weeks as you play with this.
And if you can’t yet imagine a new and wonderful future for yourself in 2021, just take the next best step for now; talk to a friend about how you feel, write privately in a journal or get in touch for a free, no obligation chat with someone who understands.
Most importantly, sit in acceptance of yourself and your circumstances, knowing that all will be revealed in good time.
“Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books that are now written in a very foreign tongue. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer.” ― Rainer Maria Rilke
You can book a free, confidential, coaching conversation here and start exploring your future today. Perhaps today could be the start of something amazing for you?
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